WHAT IS YOUR INTENTION?

What is your Intention for today? What do you want to have happen? What do you want to experience? What is your Intention in reading this article?
It is another Law of Life that your real intention always shows up. The corollary is also true – whatever you are experiencing now is the result of a desire you once had and felt into existence. If you don’t like what you’re experiencing right now, then maybe you forgot your Intention and got lost somewhere along the way. Some backtracking may be called for – or you could just drop the whole thing and work out what it is that you really want right now (and that may not be as easy as it sounds, depending on how right you want to be about what got you here/now) and simply be willing for it to show up. I suggest the latter.

In the meantime, there is no getting around the experience you are in right now; the only way out is through. It is at this point that devout Victims get stuck. They resist the flow and vigorously avow “This is NOT what I wanted!” Every available drop of energy and feeling goes into resisting what they don’t want. Resisting what you don’t want is a very different dynamic from creating space for what you DO want! You need to drop every scrap of resistance you have to it, because in order to resist an experience, you have to give your attention and energy to it, hold on to andf engage with it – albeit negatively. By resisting anything, you perpetuate it. (How many wars have we fought to end all war?)
Position creates Opposition. Resistance nails it firmly into place right under your nose. Try, instead, surrendering to it; i.e. engaging creatively with it. HAVE the experience. Any experience fully welcomed, held lightly and then let go of, disappears and you are left with --- space. Nothing. And Nothing is another name for unlimited possibility.

Whatever you are experiencing now is the result of a thought that you have willed, possibly unconsciously, into existence. Why would you do that?......... For the experience – part of which is the experience you are in right now. If you seem to be stuck in this experience, it is because you are resisting that experience. It is another Law of Life that whatever you resist – persists. There is an enormous difference in dynamics between being Willing for a particular experience, and Resisting its polar opposite. You get more of what you give your attention and energy to i.e. the exact opposite of what you want.

We FEEL our desires into existence. A thought pops, a familiar feeling automatically follows, usually very quickly (in microseconds). Electrical and chemical reactions spread the feeling to every cell in our body. We become the feeling. An aura develops around us and the message goes out, attracting people and events that we experience in a way that validates our exisitng thoughts, feelings, concepts beliefs and opinions about “the way life is”.

We all get to be right about our stuff. I’m sure you have heard, and maybe even used expressions like “This always happens to me”, or “That’s just the way life is, I guess”, or “Shit happens!”, or “All men/women are bastards” or “Life is just a bowl of cherries”…….. you know how it goes, and you’re right!! People and events are attracted to you that prove just how right you are! You get to be so right about your rackets that you’d rather be right than be happy!!

So what is it in particular that you are being right about?

Ask yourself this – “Am I a junkie for certain feelings -- anxiety, anger, frustration, jealousy, guilt, excitement, euphoria, release, etc. etc. etc……?” It’s easy to tell; cast your mind back to other incidents in your life that have generated the same feelings. If you can remember more than three, you are on an emotional addiction. But take heart; the first step in freeing yourself from an addiction is to tell the truth about it. And because the experience you’re reluctant to have is no more real than last night’s dreams, it will pass – as long as you are willing to say "Yes" to it, then when you're done, let go of it and let it be gone.

But in the meantime you’ve got these feelings and thoughts churning over wildly and repetitively. What can you do?

Re-member this – there is you, and there is your stuff. YOU ARE NOT YOUR STUFF. You are that which is unjudgmentally aware of your stuff -- the mindless observer. You are that which is left when all your stuff passes on. If you find you’ve allowed your self to get caught up in your stuff, and it’s bucking you around like a rodeo bull, remember you’re just the rider. Jump off. Let the bull (your stuff) do what it likes; just don’t jump back on board. (If you must, at least enjoy the ride!)


There once was a man who hated the sound of his own footsteps and the sight of his own shadow. He hit on a plan: he would run away from them. So he ran, and he ran, and he ran….but still his footsteps stayed there and his shadow followed him close behind. So he decided to run faster in order to get away from them. He ran faster, and faster, and faster…but still his footsteps were there and his shadow stuck by him. Day after day, week after week, year after year, he ran faster and faster, but still his footsteps and his shadow dogged him.

One day, exhausted, he dropped dead, which was a pity

Because all he had ever needed to do was –

Step into the shade

And sit down
Colin Hayes


Stop. Just stop. Drop it. Don’t move; don’t do anything. Just stop…………….

Drop being right about your suffering and just HAVE it, all of it. You created it, and the creator is always bigger than it’s creation. Have it so that you can have done with it and get on with your journey.

Victims do not want to hear this stuff. “You don’t understand – this is definitely NOT what I wanted!” they avow energetically, with voices raised in pitch. (A tirade is a complaint turned up loud). They emanate a palpable aura of “Victim over here.” Haven’t you noticed how some people seem to carry a permanently lit neon sign inviting misfortune? That includes those aggressive (in)dividuals who invest their considerable energy and feeling into resisting what they think they don’t want. By resisting and giving energy to what we don’t want, we bring it into existence. It happens by a kind of reverse attraction.

I have a very dear Aunt who has spent all her life resisting intimacy. It enabled her to get space from someone who was very tough on her, and it certainly got her central position any time she wanted it, because she could always blame someone else (in this case, her mother) for her condition. But now, in her rapidly declining months she is all alone, and wields it like a battle-axe to try and attract sympathy. Guess how effective that is! The law of reverse effect applies – very few people, other than those who are paid to do so, want to be near her: the safest course with a rampaging elephant is to give it plenty of space! She is only just beginning to realise that she is lonely because she organised it that way.

So do you: whatever your present condition, it is the result of choices and decisions you have made and feelings you have nourished. Sure, things just “happen” to you over which you have no control; unforseen and unwanted events “happen” to everybody. What you DO have control over is your response to them. Your response is yours, and no-one else can take it away from you -- we're not supposed to.
The problem is that we do not creatively respond to situations, we knee-jerk-react to them. Way back when we were tiny babies, we responded by complaining and protesting – withholding our wellbeing – and that response became hard-wired into an automatic reaction. Our reactions, in turn, created a condition that attracts people and situations that allow us to go on experiencing all the colours and levels of that condition. We become masterful at it, all the while complaining “This is not what I wanted!” How do you know that? How do you think you know that you are not willing the events in your life to happen? Perhaps, keeping you supplied with an unwanted condition is another (hidden) programme running in the back of your life that you are unaware of; something else you do not know that you don’t know, or have forgotten you put there.

My point is, no matter what your condition, you don’t have to put up with suffering about it any longer. The first step is to separate the two dynamics: on one hand there is the condition that’s bothering you, on the other is your suffering about it. The two are quite separate, except in your mind. Once you realise the separation, you can deal with the suffering quite independently of your circumstances. When suffering has ceased, the circumstances are transformed.

This is really very simple, but not always easy. After a lifetime of reinforcing your preconceptions about the way life is, willingness to let go of the habit – and that’s all it is – may, or may not come easily. Either way, don’t sweat it. For me, the shock of hitting bottom, not once but three times, was needed before I got how imprisoned I was. Along the way I was rudely shocked more than once how much like my father I had become. The bathroom mirror became a tool of enlightenment!

I don’t know whether this is so for everyone, but in my own experience, and from watching others do their trip, it seems that varying degrees of discomfort are on the menu. Hence the need to keep our avowed Intention and Willingness before us like a miner’s torch. Changing anything -- minds or underwear -- involves getting out of our comfort zones. Changing my mind raises a dissonance between its old compulsions and my determination to do life another way, and all minds hate discomfort. Changing my behaviours has occurred naturally, though, when I’ve checked in on my Intention (where I want to go) and been willing to brave the discomfort of allowing my old addictive thought and feeling patterns to be thwarted. The depths of grief and the heights of joy have opened up my heart. Uncomfortable? Oh yes. But I have learned to use any kind of discomfort, not as a block, but as an assurance that I’m headed out of my comfort zone and in the direction of Freedom.

How about you? Have you had enough of suffering?

OK. What is your Intention right now?

Speak it.

Are you ready?

Are you willing?

OK. So be it.