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Sunday, December 10, 2017

BELIEF -v- KNOWING



BELIEF -v- KNOWING
[Broadcast on 16th December, 2012]

Welcome to Pause a Moment. Tonight is about Belief. And I'll begin with a sentimental song straight out of the '50s....

[I Believe – Johnny O'Keefe (A) – 2:30]

The human world seems to run largely (though not very efficiently or happily) on Beliefs. One problem with Beliefs is that they’re not very nourishing. Belief  is a bit like dry hay in a drought. You can get by on it for a while, but it's dry and tasteless, leaves you thirsty, and – over a long time – leaves you undernourished,  dissatisfied and impoverished.

                                                       [La Raya]  
    
When you're feeling thirsty or dissatisfied........
Pause a moment.........
Try another way of looking at it.........

Beliefs have their uses. They were invented ‘way back before the dawn of consciousness to “make sense” of a world we knew next to nothing about. In the sense that they stood-in for experiences we had not yet had and helped us get along, they were bridges of ignorance.

Belief is an artifice of the mind designed to bridge over what the mind doesn't know and attempt to make sense of scattered patches of experience. Problems arises with them because they are constructs of the mind. Once we adopt a belief (and most of our core beliefs are adopted – umpteenth hand from other “believers”), our mind identifies itself with that belief as carved-in-stone truth, and will not let it go. Even in the face of later experience that disproves the belief, our minds cannot let it go. We’re trapped in mistakes made when our human awareness was too primitive to know better.

Beliefs satisfy the mind, but leave the heart and soul craving for what's missing – direct experience. Real, fresh, raw experience. Beliefs actually block direct experience. They prevent us from getting to truth, by persuading us that the belief itself IS The Truth.

Any and every belief is a partial delusion, and eclipse of truth by  preconceptions and prejudices. Belief is the lowest form of not-knowing. Believing is like going out on a dinner date to a swanky restaurant, listening to the waiter describe what's on the menu and what it tastes like, then being sent home – unfed.

I decided decades ago that I would prefer to experience love and life for myself, rather than hear about someone else's version of it and then go home having to make do with believing in its existence and hoping for a better deal, maybe when I get to heaven??
I also decided that if I needed a belief to get me over a gap in my experience, I’d remember It’s only a belief, and discard it as soon as it’s of now further use to my growth. I still do that to this day, and it has served me well. I store my temporary beliefs in my “Maybe” file.

You’ve probably guessed by now that I’m not a big fan of beliefs. Too often I’ve allowed myself to be led astray by them, and found myself way off track.

How can you tell whether something you think you know is a truth, or a belief about something. It can be quite tricky sometimes because one of the traps inherent in beliefs is that they are self-proving. Whatever you or I believe, we get to certain that we’re right.

Why? Why such a lousy trick?

Initially, beliefs helped us to survive – to get past obstacles raised by our lack of experience. They are primitive tools for survival. We get trapped in this primitive state because most of us are raised by parents who, themselves, hadn’t yet discovered they were still running on the mental and spiritual equivalent of tinned baby food. For a lot of us, it’s not until our life comes to some kind of trainwreck that we begin to seriously question our assumptions about everything, and go searching for another way of seeing and doing life. Some people never make that leap, and die at odds with existence and unsatisfied.
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Belief is based on no direct experience. A Belief connects up islands of experience in order to try and make some sense of our world. Beliefs act like bridges over vast oceans of what we don't know. Belief exists anywhere there is no direct knowing. In fact, belief itself is the lowest form of not-knowing.

[Believe – Sebastian (A) – 3:25]

Beliefs are like walking aids. Since you finally learned to stand on your own two feet and walk and run, beliefs (both those you adopted from others and those you made up yourself) have been holding you back.

Beliefs are no longer your best friends. Let ‘em go.

So I mean it when I say - please don't believe anything I say – I don't. Oh, I mean what I say, and I say what I mean, but I don't believe it – I don't have to because what I say is known from my experiences.

Wherever there is knowing from direct personal experience, belief is no longer needed. Let me take the example of learning to ride a bike. When I started, I knew nothing of “balance”, other than the evidence that other people who rode bikes “had” it. And I believed that maybe I could have it, too. But that belief wasn’t enough. I fell off – often. 

Now, I could have read books about Balance, but would they have helped me ride a bike? No. The only way to learn to ride a bike was to – get on a bike, fall off and get on again --- until I “got” balance. But to this day, I still have Balance – pretty wobbly, mind you. But still there. Do I have to believe in Balance before I get on bike again? No. I've got it. I know it. (It's like riding a bike). Ever since you learnt to ride a bike you no longer have to believe “balance”.  You always had it in potential, and now you know it.

So please don't believe me. Don't disbelieve me either; just open yourself up to possibility, stand in the question “What's the difference between Believing and Knowing?”, and find out for yourself.

I mean what I say, but I'm not attached to it. I don't have to be “right” about it. Nothing of what I say here is either right or wrong: it exists as possibilities that I have experienced and that still work for me. If something ever stops working for me, I’ll drop it like a hot cake and try something different. I’m not going to make the mistake of saying to myself This used to work for me. I’m not going to let it go. I’ll keep doing it this way and one day it will work again. I see too many people tied to loyalty to a principle that’s no longer valid, stumbling into oblivion. Living in loyalty to anything outdated or no longer valid is the ultimate disloyalty to oneself. Yet I still come across people who choose to die for a principle. And some of them get medals for it; and others keep looking for their names in the Honours List.

I simply invite you to engage with me with an open mind. Suspend your judgements and opinions for a while, take what you get, and become aware of your own experiences in the moments, days and weeks that follow.

A word of warning about strange little quirky bits you'll come across from time to time called “paradoxes”. You have probably noticed that life is peppered with paradoxes – mysterious bits of experience that contradict one another. Don't you just hate that? Well, I'm sorry to have to tell you – that's just the way it is. I find Paradoxes fun, and useful – they uncover and challenge opinions and beliefs I didn't know I had, and remind me that a greater reality exists that encompasses everything we know so far, and what we don't yet know. I love paradox. It's a sign that I'm sitting on a limited point of view, and prodding me to embrace both sides as “possible”, and move on. 

I promise to do my best throughout Pause a Moment to contradict myself. Promise.

Rather than agree or disagree with me, I invite you to simply be willing to take anything that piques your interest and stand in it for a few days as a possibility. Stand on it like a step ladder and look at your world from that different place. Watch what shows up. Notice the differences from your former position. Embrace both views. Get a wider perspective.

The Truth isn't ever / either this or that; it's both this truth AND that truth.
If you are willing to stand on a few new ladders, take in a few new lookouts, a few new points of view and simply observe how you see your life differing as a result, then spaces of realistation -- “A-hahs!” -- will open up for you. Then I invite you to relax your positions and inhabit your “A-hahs!” for yourself. They are your realisations. You “got” them, and that is as it should be.

If I give you something, I can take it away from you again.
If you give something to yourself, it is yours
And no-one can ever take it away from you --
Not without your permission.
Colin Hayes

Now this next is important, and it comes back to the problem with Beliefs ---- When you have gotten your insights from a new point of view, let go of them, otherwise they will harden into more beliefs and opinions. That's right. Let 'em go. You got your “got-it”. Discard the scaffolding and move on....next....and next.... and next..... do anything that will neutralise any temptation to hang on – I’ve got The Answer!!” LET GO. 

Whatever you got, enjoy the burst of light, then give it away, pass it on, and move on.

[I Believe – Mark Vincent & Greta Bradman (A) – 4:25]

Beliefs are traps, promising enlightenment and delivering ignorance, promising freedom and delivering captivity. Whatever we believe in runs our world – superstition, religion and romance (as distinct from spirituality and love) couldn't survive without beliefs. And whatever we believe about anything absolutely ensures that we will experience it as if this IS the way it is. Our beliefs about the world and ourselves control the ways we perceive and react to it.

Conversely, if our life is not working, there's a better than even chance that we have a belief or two about something (including our self) that we have to be right about, but that are no longer serving us well.

Belief is supposed to relieve you of the torment of uncertainty, but it instead traps you inside ignorance – lack of experience. Believing is the lowest form of Not-Knowing, the bottom rung of Uncertainty. In fact, I suggest we only believe in something because we're uncertain about it and, for whatever reasons, are unwilling to explore further and – horror of horrors – change our mind!.  We take the easy option and become certain about our beliefs instead. When we don't know something, we settle for thinking we know, and fight to be right about that. When we truly KNOW something, there is no need to believe. And when we know it thoroughly and naturally, the experience is next to impossible to put into words. Maybe that’s why we listen to music, sing songs and read poetry.

Close.

How do we tell the difference between what we know / and what we think we know?

I don't know.

But here are a couple of clues -- one's in the heart and the other's in the head. If it's something I feel right about, or feel I have to stand up for, then I suspect I'm in the realm of thinking I know/believing I know. Alternatively, if there's there's no urge to prove, defend or do anything about it, that's a good sign. Bottom line – I just assume that, whatever I think I know, there's always more to get to know. That keeps me humble and available to change my mind.

MEDITATION
[Gesture of Silence – Kamal & Gyuto Monks of Tibet]
Hold under.......>>>>>
Relax.

Notice what thoughts are floating through your mind now. Don't do anything with them – just notice them and let them continue on their way. Look for the spaces between them. Observe the gaps in the stream of traffic. It is in those gaps that truth awaits you.
Thinking is always about something; it is never direct. Whenever you think about anything, you have moved your attention to something that’s passed, away from now and away from directly experiencing the thing itself. Whenever you try to describe or comment on anything, you have lost immediate contact with it. You are experiencing “Thinking about”.

You are immediately liberated from the confinement of “thinking and feeling about” when you become a detached Witness to your thinking and feeling. Just become aware of what your mind is up to. Don't think about that; don’t try to change it; just be aware now… aware now…. aware now…….

Become the Watcher Within now. Take your awareness to the inside of your right forearm. When you are ready, gently raise your right forearm, keeping your awareness there inside of it. Watch what it feels like to move your arm -- from the inside.
Good. Let your arm return, and remain the Watcher Within – alert, looking, seeing, hearing, smelling, touching, tasting with detached interest. Alert, sensitive and available.

A think-about-er is never here/now --- he's in his head.
A feel-about-er is absent from this moment --- she's in her head.
Never available directly; always somewhere else, sometime else, out to lunch, out and about....
Leave a message after the tone…..

Come back now. Come back to the here and now where it's all happening.
What is so for you right now?
What are you thinking? Just notice it, and let it go on through.
What are you feeling? Just notice it, and let it go on through.
Be with that. Just watch; don't get involved.
Watch it aware-fully...................

Everything will reveal itself to you in its own good time
If you are willing and patient.
The doors will open.

When you eat – eat.
When you drink – drink.
When you sleep – sleep.
When you can't sleep, stop trying to.
When you listen – listen.
When you do – do.
When you don't do – don't do......
Don't think about it.

Your mind is dual. It can never, ever comprehend Wholeness; that is the province of the heart. The best the mind can handle is an Idea about Wholeness – dry, tasteless and devoid of nourishment, The menu, not the meal.

Your mind is an instrument for thinking; mind cannot KNOW anything; it can only think it knows, and it does a lot of that!

When we THINK we know something, all that has happened is that the mind has placed a boundary around what it thinks it can contain, crammed it into a pre-existing pigeonhole and is saying to you “That's it! I know!”

Gently remind your mind there is more mystery yet to be explored through the doorway of Not-Knowing. That doorway your mind will not enter: you have to go first. It is only by surrendering yourself to a sense of uncomfortable incompleteness and not-knowing that you will find the Natural Knowing you seek.

Knowing lives the other side of Not-Knowing -- the one place you haven't looked yet. No wonder it has eluded you!

Natural Knowing is hidden behind feelings of Insecurity. This insecure-feeling of Not-Knowing brings us to the immediacy of this moment, the only space where natural knowing and true security will ever show up.

While ever you think you know something, your mind wants to hang onto it and be right about it. You severely limit the possibilities for anything else to show up. Certainty of Not-Knowing opens up infinite possibilities.

Surrender to not-knowing. Surrender to uncertainty. They are creative forces waiting for you to say “Yes” to them.

Dismantle the fortress of beliefs and opinions you've built around yourself for protection, and open yourself to the vastness of Natural Knowing..........

[I'll Know – Barbra Streisand – 2:48]

You've been listening to Pause a Moment. I'm Barrie Barkla. Thank you for taking part......











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