Rejection
is a part of life. You don't have to like it when it happens, and
most people, including me, don't. But avoiding it is not a healthy
option, and life's easier if you learn how to handle it so that
no-one gets bent out of shape. If your parents didn't have the
wherewithal to teach you Rejection #101 when you were a young sprog,
then you're going to have to take a crash adult course, preferably
from someone who does rejection with ease.
Avoiding
or resisting rejection leads you into a life of certain loneliness,
despair and estrangement.
Rejection
is unpleasant because it directly triggers activity in the same area
of the brain as physical pain. And Fear of Rejection triggers a
reaction of “rejection-in-advance”, a reaction equally as painful
as real-time rejection.
So
when caught at the doorway to a new possibility, especially in the
tender area of personal relationships, you have a choice = Avoiding
the risk of rejection and facing certain separation and sadness; or
learning, in practice, strategies for coping. And there are plenty of
learning resources available to you, no matter where you live.
But
here's a useful and very effective starting point: if you catch
yourself doing anything other than gratefully and gladly embracing
the possibility of Rejection, there's your problem right there. You
are doing the rejecting up front. How else is the universe expected to respond
to you, other than by rejecting you?
See
your fears for what they are – Excitement and Anticipation, with
negative labels attached – and welcome the adventure of Living
Possibly.
[Hold
Me – Jade Hurley (A) – 2:14]
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