INDECISION

Indecision is Inertia with St.Vitus' Dance;
It can be either the static inertia of ennui,
Or the dynamic inertia of an unstoppable habit;
In either case it feels like we're being racked back and forth
Between polar opposites.
Indecision is a fit of spasmodic indetermination
That results in our temporary but total disconnection
From Opportunity and Potential.

Indecision is an outward and inward symptom
Of a conflict between two or more values
On your hierarchy of "What's Important to Me".
You are at cross-purposes with yourself,
Perhaps caught in eddies of "ifs", "buts" and "maybes",
That your mind has convinced you are "relevant" and "important".
The devil lies in that kind of detail.

If you're undecided, there's something you've forgotten,
Something you're unclear about,
And something you're not being honest about --
You've lost touch with your overriding life-choice:
There's something unacknowledged that is sabotaging you
And paralysing you.
You're spasmed onto conflicting needs
And contrary ways of getting them met.

Get clear of the crap.
Drop the "story".....
Let it go;
It's blinding you to the bloody obvious..
There's nothing in all your head-cranking that's worth losing your freedom and balance.
Take a deep breath or three.

Now.....

What are your needs here?
Write them down.
All of them. Censor nothing.
Which of your needs are not being fully met?
What, if anything, can you do to improve this situation?

What do you want?........
...Out of life?
...Out of this situation?
How will one get you the other?

What is your highest Choice?
Which alternatives are most closely aligned
To the kind of person you'd rather be in your own eyes?

Look at your list.
Which items best meet your long-term needs and values?
(If your needs aren't being met, you're of no earthly use to anyone else.
The last thing a stuck person needs is a "saviour" with baggage!)

CHOICES AND DECISIONS

We began life with many choices already made for us
And we adopted them as a matter of course
In order to survive.
We went along to get along.
Other choices naturally followed the channels already excavated --
Mostly flowing either totally unconsciously or
At best, informed by limited life experience.
This process is natural and common to every human being I've ever come across.
But choices previously made on shaky awareness
Never get reviewed:
Human minds are just not happy to do that.
In our teens, most of us rebelled
Against the growing feeling of entrapment.
We didn't know, of course,
The origin or nature of the feeling we'd been trapped,
Nor did we know that rebellion was just going to make it worse.
It takes a major, catastrophic crisis (usually later in life)
Before another inner voice (often needing the help of an aware counselor)
Ever rises to challenges the strident insistences of our ego
And questions the content and validity of default choices
That we don't ever remember having made.

We once blindly formed Choices
Which have long since taken over the job of forming us.
We no longer think them; they "think" us.
Decisions, on the other hand, are formed,
Moment-by-moment,
Usually in line with habit
And usually in the limited illumination
Of our blind, unchosen Choices.

Indecision is a wake-up call
To bring your Choices and Decisions out into the daylight
And really look
At what they are
And question "How well is this serving me?"

Wake up!.......
First get clear on what you want,
(And that may be harder than you think).
I'd love a dollar for every time I've asked someone
"What do you want?"
And got a blank, incredulous stare in response.

Having enunciated what you want,
If you're still undecided,
Make a decision.
It really doesn't matter which one,
As long as you know what you want.
Any decision will do
To release you from the hiccups
And the paralysis of will.

This isn't rocket science........

The antidote for Inaction is to Act.
The cure for Indecision is to Decide.
Drano for the spirit.