HOW TO PICK AN EVOLVING HUMAN BEING (from a Lost Cause)

• A Lost Cause says "Nobody knows". An Evolver  says "Let's find out."
• When an Evolver makes a mistake, he says "I got it wrong; got it!". A Lost Cause says "It wasn't my fault."
• An Evolver says "Thank you" whatever happens; he knows how luck works. A Lost Cause blames his bad luck, whatever happens. He thinks Gratitude is something you only dish out when you get what you want, the way you want it.
• An Evolver learns when and how to say "Yes " and "No". and is pretty clear about why. A Lost Cause hedges a lot around "Yes, but....." and "Maybe not..." at the wrong times and for the wrong reasons.
• An Evolver states "This is my intention....."; a Lost Cause promises "I'll try.........."
• A Lost Cause complains "I have to....."; and Evolver declares "I choose to...."
• An Evolver isn't nearly as afraid of losing as a Lost Cause is secretly afraid of succeeding.
• A Lost Cause is always too busy and never has enough time; an Evolver knows how to make time.
• An Evolver works through situations and conditions; a Lost Cause tries to get around them, and never gets past them.
• An Evolver makes commitments; a Lost Cause makes wishes and promises.
• Evolvers get up a head of steam and apply it steadily to the drive wheels to maximise traction. Lost Causes blow it all out of the whistle.
• An Evolver cleans up his messes; a Lost Cause shrugs and does it again.
• An Evolver is focussed on values, and knows where to take a stand, and where and when to negotiate; a Lost Cause is focussed on self-important issues, compromises the important stuff and fights over trivialities.
• An Evolving person acknowledges that he's doing well, and that he can learn and improve. A Lost Cause says "I'm not as bad as other people."
• An Evolving person builds a life; a Lost Cause repeats his childhood over and over until he dies.
• An Evolver listens attentively; he knows the creator gave him two ears and one mouth for a good reason. A Lost Cause waits until it's his turn to talk.
• A Lost Cause will do just about anything to be liked, ignoring the fact that it's costing him Contempt. An Evolving person engenders respect, and doesn't take too personally what other people think of him, except as feedback on how effectively he's representing what's important to him. 
• An Evolving person feels strong enough to be gentle and firm; a Lost Cause fears gentleness will be taken as weakness.
• An Evolver respects authority; a Lost Cause jealously resents it.
• An Evolver learns how to give direction by learning first to take it with grace and gratitude; a Lost Cause can't wait to start giving orders.
• An Evolver explains; a Lost Cause explains away.
• An Evolving being feels responsible for more than just his job; a Lost Cause says "I only work here."
• An Evolver feeds the Goose that lays the golden eggs; a Lost Cause can't wait to steal the eggs.
• A Lost Cause contents himself with "This is the way its has always been done"; an Evolver says "There has to be another way..."
• Evolutionary leaders spend their lives serving: others may erect monuments to them, but only after they've gone; Lost Causes start posing for their monuments before they've done anything very much. In fact, some Lost Causes do nothing but pose, night in -- night out.
• Lost Causes keep walking Westward, looking for a sunrise.
• An Evolver knows from his observations that a Victim's life doesn't work: Lost Causes race each other to see who can get to the bottom first.
• Evolvers look for ways to make a difference; Lost Causes look for ways to become "special needs".