Old habits sometimes die hard.
I still catch myself occasionally concerning myself about what someone else thinks of me.
(Especially my children and grandchildren).
What am I not giving to myself?
If I need someone -- anyone -- "liking" me,
It's a sure sign of the presence of guilt, embarrassment or shame,
And that there is some liking to be done over here in my space.
If I need someone to respect me,
There is some self-respect lacking here in my own backyard.
When I'm not liking or respecting myself,
I'm unconsciously teaching others to not like or respect me, too.
That's how it works.
Despising oneself and expecting others to fill the Affection Deficit
Is, at best, unrealistic, and
At worst,
A shitty Testing Game
Of manipulation and control.
If we don't respect our self,
The rest of the world will end up agreeing with us --
Most of them anyway.
When we do like and respect our selves,
What others think and feel doesn't much matter
To our peace of mind.
No comments:
Post a Comment