MORE ON UNCONDITIONAL LOVE

The warning bells go off when I read about "Unconditional Love" as a must-have. That, right there, is a condition --

(My unconditional love is conditional: I can't be with anybody who puts conditions on me.)

And it is likely to attract yet another conditional suitor --
Someone who says "Yeah, I'll have some of that unconditional love, too, thanks very much"

Unconditional Love, by definition, allows conditional love to be.
If there is anything -- anything -- that unconditional love cannot allow
Then it is no longer "unconditional".
Unconditional love ALLOWS.


(Right there is the answer to the question "How can God let this happen?" God ALLOWS. Thank God she allows, otherwise I wouldn't stand a snowball's chance in Hell. Ah, but you want God to allow this, but not that? That doesn't sound like God to me; that sounds like somebody's ego. God allows ALL. She can afford to because she IS All.)

Are you still so sure that Unconditional Love is what you're looking for?
How grand is your allowing?

I don't see Unconditional love as static. I see it as a moment-to-moment journey, a process that involves making mistakes and taking risks. It also involves giving up my attachments to excess baggage, like my most cherished old ways of feeling -- anger, resentment, jealousy (haven't felt that on in a while, thank god!), grief, hurt, embarrassment, righteousness, disappointment, self-pity, self-importance, rage, and winning --- to make room for some new experiences. Fortunately the payoff for allowing these bags of ballast to drop off the trolley is a closer connection with harmony, balance and the power of finer energies. Going back to the limitations of the old ways becomes less and less attractive. Occasionally I get flashes of re-cognition of how things used to be for me. It feels  a bit like looking through an old photo album -- quaintly interesting, but irrelevant now.

We were all born out of the womb; to physically return is impossible. There just isn't room back there any more! And there really wasn't anything back there then that is worth cranking your head over now.

Moving right along..............

Unconditional Love is no better or worse than any experience, conditional or otherwise, that we have had before. If it were so, then that would be a judgment, a comparison, and therefore no longer unconditional.

Love is not better than anything. Nor is it better than anything else because there is no "outside" of love to be "else". Love embraces every experience unconditionally (including the experience of not-embracing). Once we experience that kind of allowing and appreciating, it makes looking at your old ideas of what love was (like in any soap opera) rather like watching those jerky old movies of flying machine experiments that never quite got off the ground long enough to fly more than a few metres. Quaint, crude and, frankly, a bit of a joke.

How will you know Unconditional Love when you experience it? 

Well, for one thing, your mind will stop saying "This ain't it."
And for another thing, your mind will stop saying "This is it."

In fact, your mind will be absent,

Because wherever anything unconditional is

Mind, and anything else it considers itself to be,

Cannot be there.

Mind is a Condition that is conditional and conditioning.

Love is like --

A daily commitment to celebrate

And permission to go deeper, higher, wider and beyond...........

Beyond even this limited perception.