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Saturday, May 03, 2014

YOU HAVE TO GET PERMISSION TO BE HAPPY

If you're having a bout of bad feelings, welcome to one aspect of the condition of being human! We get so aware of bad feelings they can obliterate everything else. To get things back into perspective, I find it helpful to remind myself that feelings (good or bad) are not who we are. We have a key to our house, too, but it's not who we are; it's just something we have. Same with thoughts and feelings.

So the first step out of any nightmare you're in, is to get that it is just that – a dream that is happening all by itself. You're aware of it right now, but it's not who you are.

Even when you identify your self with it, you only think it's who you are. Well if you insist, keep going. Give yourself a good dose of the horrors. But when you've had enough, remember you are not your dreams and fantasies, you are not even the dreamer or the fantasist. You are that which is simply aware of both the dreamer and the dreamer's dreams. As American blogger, Ivan M. Granger observed recently – We spend most of our lives striving so hard to earn our own permission to be at rest where we are -- when we could have done that all along.

If you truly want to be happy, you do have to get permission from the Happiness Keeper -- your self. If you aren't happy, you now know who to talk with....

I'll let Byron Katie have the last word on this one. It's from her book “Loving What Is” – It is easy to be swept away by some overwhelming feeling, so it’s helpful to remember that any stressful feeling is like a compassionate alarm clock that says, “Wake up, you’re caught in the dream.”

[Caught In the Crowd – Kate Miller-Heidke (A) – 3:35]

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