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Tuesday, May 13, 2014

PERSONALITY - PERSONALLY SPEAKING....

I read this post on the internet a few days ago:-

Was wondering if anyone else been through this? I've been going through this for what seems an eternity now although it's not been 2 years yet and I'm starting to panic that my life has been stripped bare and there is no sign of anything changing soon. 
 
Up until a few months ago I seriously thought I was going nuts as my personality just vanished into thin air and even now I'm still not too sure about who I really am. This is the hardest thing I've been through in my life and I'm really struggling to keep plodding on as I wake up every day with absolutely nothing to look forward too, the depression has been fairly intense recently and no matter what I try just now every project just seems to fail.
I keep reading about how you just need to keep going through this but I'm not sure if I have the mental strength to cope with this much longer, I feel like a prisoner in solitary confinement that has been locked up and forgotten about. 
If you could offer any advice coping I'd be eternally grateful. 
PS apologies for sounding so bloody miserable.
 
OK. I'm so glad to meet you at last. Let's look at this “I” you keep referring to. Is that that the one you see in the mirror and say “That's me?” Well, what if you're wrong about that? I mean, it's only “you” if you buy into another thought that says “Yes, that's me”. And who's doing that thinking anyway – you? I don't think so.
Take a step backwards – this “you” that is doing the thinking --- what is aware of that “you” and the thinking it is doing? What is that Awareness? Does it care? Or is it just Aware? Without thinking? 
 
Close your eyes for a few seconds and say softly to yourself “I am”. Is there any doubt about that? No? Of course not. You certainly are. Anything “you” tries to add after “I am...” might be a matter for conjecture, but there's no doubt that you ARE. There is a pure awareness there, is there not? Yes. Can you see it? No? Can you hear it? No. Can you touch it? No. But it is there, isn't it? Just Awareness. Nothing else. 
 
So what is this bad dream you think you're having, yeah, the one you label “depression”? I've got one of those, too. But what is it? Just a bunch of shitty feelings that are arising in that Awareness. There is Awareness, and there is a bad dream that this awareness is conscious of; two quite separate things.

Now what if you are not the bad dream – the “personality”? What if you are the Awareness? Then the personality, which has only appeared to you over time, could dis-appear and the Awareness would still be. Yes? That would be who you are. Your personality is just a belief --- “I am my personality” = “The world is flat”.

My “I” has a belief “I am a failure”. So this committed “failure” is freaking out about the possibilities and dangers of failing? Is that an example of me getting in my own way? No wonder I get the shudders!

Consider letting go of this “personality” you lovingly hand-crafted, and without it allowing authenticity to show up instead. Why have you tried so hard to manufacture an image of what you already are? What else is “personality” but an image you want to see in the mirror? How about being what you are instead? And that might be scary for a minute or two because you have no idea yet just how beautiful you are. You've never yet given yourself a chance to show up. This “personality” you've concocted has always got in the way. Ditch it.

I look at “personality” and see something you thought your parents, teachers, partners, friends and sundry others wanted, but who are you? I want to know who you are, not your freaking mind-made personality!

Mind, the maker of all illusions, is an appearance – it appears to be real, and so does everything – everything it creates. But because it appeared, it's terrified of it and its creations (incl. “you”) disappearing again. So it takes a hostage -- you – the Awareness-you that never disappears. The servant kidnaps the master. 
 
Time to break free.

When you're ready......

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