Let's consider Goals for a minute or two. If there is something in your
life that you want to change, something which you cannot let go of
the need to change and allow to be as it is, you can set it up as a
Goal.
You know the drill -- write
down a list of those desired changes that you cannot allow to be as-is.
Make sure to phrase each one in the Here/Now, and list only what you
want, not what you are trying to avoid or get rid of. When
you've done that, read each goal silently to your self, as if it is
already done and happening.
Now here's where slightly different approach kicks in: write down the first thought or
feeling that comes to mind that is the opposite of accepting this
goal as already having been accomplished. Then ask yourself,
“Could
I let that thought or feeling go?”
Continue
being with each of your goals and asking “Could
I let that negating thought or feeling go?”
to each one until a feeling of release – “I can let it go and
have this.” – settles on you. In the process of doing this, you
demonstrate to yourself what you want in your life, and at the same
time you will be dissolving the repudiative attachments and aversions that keep
you tied up in limitation. Very importantly, this process will root out one of the biggest hidden spoilers that plague us all - our unwillingness to not-have what you want. That's right. Our unwillingness to NOT have what we want sends out the wrong messages. Unwillingness is an energy of unwillingness -- that's the message the universe gets.
When you try this new approach, you may also get a sense of
how much of what you want, you already have.
Next,
go back to the Need and ask your self – “What
was the feeling I had before this need arose? What was the feeling I
had, that I lost touch with when this need reared its head? Can I
remember that feeling now?” Don't
move on until you reconnect in some measure with the memory of the
feeling you had immediately prior to when this need barged into
your awareness, and you got involved with this "I don't have" crap
instead.
Now
ask this question – “Could
I completely let go of wanting
to create this [whatever your goal is] and rest contentedly in being
whatever might be waiting beyond the creation?” In
other words, I'm asking you to imagine the feeling you're heading
for, and opening up the possibility of something even better than what you want. Are you game to be that free?
Then,
make a list of things that have been created in your life so far –
things you would classify as both wanted and unwanted. Accept, as
best you can, the possibility that everything in your life has been,
and is being created by your mind. Ask yourself – Could
I allow myself now to accept this as a creation of my mind? Could I
allow myself now to accept that wanting
this is also just a creation of the same mind? Could I possibly
let go
of wanting this?
Now
make these two statements to your self several times, until you
become aware of the quite distinctly different feeling each one gives
you ---
I
want this. then
I have this.
I
want that. then
I am that.
They
feel quite different inside you when you say them out loud, don't they?
Lastly
for now – ask yourself: Would
I rather want
happiness, or Be
happiness? Would I rather postpone happiness until certain conditions
are met, or will now be an OK time for me to be happy?
Let
all your goals be a pointing of your intentions; affirmations of
preferences that have already been put in train by a force that conspires with you.
Put
out for what you want and love what you get, for no other reason
than it hurts you when you argue with what is.
Byron
Katie says it best – “Life
is simple. Everything happens for you, not to you. Everything happens
at exactly the right moment, neither too soon nor too late. You don't
have to like it... it's just easier if you do.”
This
has been another Postcard From Out Here. I'm Barrie Barkla.
[Save
Me From What I Want – Dyson, Stringer, Cloher (A) – 4:36]
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